tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post3705669713509819672..comments2023-10-18T06:47:21.170-04:00Comments on Living In Perfect Chaos: Something To Talk AboutJennboreehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-80809191219823392182007-07-26T22:26:00.000-04:002007-07-26T22:26:00.000-04:00You are sooo right. I have worked with an office f...You are sooo right. I have worked with an office full of women, and boy have I learned some hard lessons. Very few people in that office do I trust.kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987700142247888708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-69022057842772510872007-05-30T01:44:00.000-04:002007-05-30T01:44:00.000-04:00Completely understand.Completetly. I actually stut...Completely understand.<BR/>Completetly. <BR/><BR/>I actually stuttered today while spending time with a new SAHM friend.Kandacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04812097152766043141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-79602475075055191992007-05-25T20:07:00.000-04:002007-05-25T20:07:00.000-04:00Man- I am batting a 1000 tonight! BAby J and rough...Man- I am batting a 1000 tonight! BAby J and roughSHOD! LOL And I forgot to say I heard ya'll are having some rough weather down there, hope you all are staying dry and safe, be careful and don't go too crazy with all the rain and little people stuck in side!T-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01880195323752995377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-63609427562759916322007-05-25T20:04:00.000-04:002007-05-25T20:04:00.000-04:00MLM! SO going to use that from now on!Boby J is sh...MLM! SO going to use that from now on!<BR/><BR/>Boby J is shy also but I think that is just her nature. I use to worry about it but then one day I was at my gf's house who has two older kids (6 & 10) and every kid in the neighborhood was over and I watched her cling to the her two kids at first. About an hour later I was laughing because SHE was ruling the roost! She was riding roughshaw all over those kids and I had to laugh. That is when I finally thought "maybe I shouldn't worry so much about it, she OBVIOUSLY has what it takes to lead!" She had those kids totally jumping, seriously I kind of was jealous... what is her secret? LMAOT-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01880195323752995377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-34891110077081734072007-05-25T13:53:00.000-04:002007-05-25T13:53:00.000-04:00I can't do mommy groups. I don't fit in. I feel ju...I can't do mommy groups. I don't fit in. I feel judged. I don't drive the right car, carry the right handbag.<BR/><BR/>Fortunately, I've made friends with two moms from V's pre-school that are MLM (moms like me). I was so excited to find them!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-48396496479627863892007-05-25T10:10:00.000-04:002007-05-25T10:10:00.000-04:00Thanks, Eve!I agree. I'd definitely love to have ...Thanks, Eve!<BR/><BR/>I agree. I'd definitely love to have my mom blog friends here for playdates and GNO :)Jennboreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-48107038776768429242007-05-24T17:29:00.000-04:002007-05-24T17:29:00.000-04:00My sister is also my best friend, but I have a few...My sister is also my best friend, but I have a few cherished others who remind me that, no matter how difficult and complicated female relationships are, they are SO worth it. There is something about dear girlfriends that is so precious and intimate and rare, and as great as male friends are, they are just different.<BR/><BR/>But I also find that it's hard to make real friends in mommy groups. Parenting is such a personal and emotional thing, and it's impossible to find someone you agree with on everything. Too much judgement and comparisons... sadly. I do it just for the kids as well.<BR/><BR/>Though, I often wish we could have playdates with many of the blogging moms I've gotten to know online- like you! :)Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13540373421574507821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-5132198155623720992007-05-24T15:12:00.000-04:002007-05-24T15:12:00.000-04:00My whole reason for even getting involved in playg...My whole reason for even getting involved in playgroups is to get Bella used to groups of children. I could tell at times she was intimidated and unsure of herself. I was always terribly shy as a child and I'm hoping that by being more social it will in turn help her to be. Hoping. :)Jennboreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-17375812349067474882007-05-24T13:13:00.000-04:002007-05-24T13:13:00.000-04:00TEN KIDS! Pffft not in my house!!!!So, when did I ...TEN KIDS! Pffft not in my house!!!!<BR/><BR/>So, when did I write this post and you stole it???? I am SO with you! I would LIKE to be one of those Mom's, they seem to have fun but the fact is... I am not! It takes one time of someone asking/saying something stupid and me snapping back something rude since they were rude, and I am persona non-grata! Also, I like gossip BUT I don't like meanness! My SIL and I got in a fight once and she accused me of over gossiping and saying my opinion on it too much which I found funny since she is the town crier! So yeam, I don't do well with other Mom's myself! I would like to but I don't! I keep Joci's playdates to small little intiment groups of people (ie ONE Mom! LOL) I know and it works out better... for all! Yesterday she came home EXAUSTED from one little boy, whom she loves! LOLT-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01880195323752995377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-89453144871754642502007-05-22T20:42:00.000-04:002007-05-22T20:42:00.000-04:00Jenn, I can so relate. I don't necessarily get tot...Jenn, I can so relate. I don't necessarily get totally verklempt around women, but I am much more comfortable in the company of men. Maybe it's because I have four brothers and no sisters and just grew up learning how to deal/live with men, but not women. When I was a kid girls scared the shit out of me. I had a few close girlfriends, but in school if a girl teased me I'd go home crying and stressing about it for weeks. If I guy teased me, I'd punch him in the face. Oh, how I wish I could have punched the girls, too!<BR/><BR/>Seriously though, a lot of it has to do with maturity. We often joke as women that men never mature beyond the age of 11. And in many instances, we're right. But if Spouse has a "fight" with a guy friend, they not only make up, but they MOVE ON. They don't let the old wounds/problems fester, like women do. We hang onto shit from years past and it can eat us alive. We regurgitate the same drama over and over with our friends, never actually solving any of the problems, always too timid of one another, let's not step on toes because she might get mad at me, and then she'll tell so-and-so and then so-and-so won't like me, either, etc. It's all petty and catty and 7th grade. Talk about not maturing...and then there's the judgment, the gossip, etc. Why are we like that?!?!?!<BR/><BR/>Most smart women (like me and you) figure this out at some point and become very selective when choosing friends. I hope that you enjoy your GNO, they can be fun with the right group of people. But you'll probably know right away if any of these ladies have friend potential. If not, at least you can say you braved the world of the unknown. Good luck!RockerMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18408783084057423474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-87052029792080285882007-05-22T20:39:00.000-04:002007-05-22T20:39:00.000-04:00Hmmm...interesting. Has this been the case even wh...Hmmm...interesting. Has this been the case even when you were single?<BR/>In my case, I can relate on a few points, like although I can do a GNO, I prefer to go out with just a few girls. I am not into big big ladies groups. I feel uncomfortable. I like it when I have 3 or 4 really close girlfriends and that's about it. Given a choice, I prefer hanging with my bestfriend of 17 years and who happens to be the Mom of Josh's bestfriend.<BR/>And may I agree with you that yes, girls have a tendency to judge. And because of this, we put up our own wall a lot of times to protect ourselves.<BR/>But I hope you would be open to the idea of letting loose a bit and enjoying that GNO. Try it and if it just doesn't work for you at least you can say you did it.<BR/>Let us know how it goes! :)louannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522758277418450920noreply@blogger.com