tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post558251929426219458..comments2023-10-18T06:47:21.170-04:00Comments on Living In Perfect Chaos: No Rest For The WearyJennboreehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-76540458422219221502007-01-06T13:34:00.000-04:002007-01-06T13:34:00.000-04:00Hi Jenn, it sounds like the Christmas chaos could ...Hi Jenn, it sounds like the Christmas chaos could have thrown her off balance. If she is eating just to eat, then it's just a matter of finding out something else that with soothe her (I know, easier said than done!) I only nursed The Boy for a month so I'm not much help in that area, although he slept through the night for the first time around 12 weeks. At that point I knew he could make it all night without eating, but sometimes the habit reared its head and I found myself up at 3am again. In those cases I would go in his room but not pick him up, just rub his back and soothe him for a minute or two. I tried to set the tone that "Mommy hears you but it's night time." He quickly realized that "oh yeah, I don't have to eat," and he'd go back to sleep. I think it's just a matter of replacing one habit with another. Things like holidays really can mess with babies schedules, so try and hang in there. I don't think crying it out is bad either, and Ava is approaching 4 months??? I think by 4-5 months it starts being more of a teaching tool. Anything younger than 4 months I say do whatever they want! Good luck, throwing some sleepy dust your way!RockerMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18408783084057423474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-81518350908512332002007-01-05T20:42:00.000-04:002007-01-05T20:42:00.000-04:00Jen... that is a great idea... why didn't I think ...Jen... that is a great idea... why didn't I think of that??? Thank you I will try it!!!<br /><br />Hugs- TT-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01880195323752995377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-26183787078217182022007-01-05T10:37:00.000-04:002007-01-05T10:37:00.000-04:00T-Girl...actually to help Bella who never slept in...T-Girl...actually to help Bella who never slept in a crib anyway, I put a mattress on the floor of her room with a rail (hey it is just as jolting to fall a foot!) and lay with her until she slept. Took about a month but then she slept through the night and could get up without hurting herself. I also shut her door and kept it fairly dark to discourage playing at 3am. <br /><br />Shoshana...that makes perfect sense about the cuddling. I do hold Ava alot. Though she takes all naps in her swing or boppy.<br /><br />We can't really OVER LOVE our babies, right? :)Jennboreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-83567453269696996282007-01-05T04:00:00.000-04:002007-01-05T04:00:00.000-04:00I'm with Tallulah in this one. It's hard for me to...I'm with Tallulah in this one. It's hard for me to relax when one of my babies cries, especially when they're less than 12 months old.<br /><br />How often do you hold Ava? Coz, maybe she's associating it with cuddling...<br /><br />I am one of those mothers who doubled up as pacifier. My babies wouldn't take pacifiers, they have me already.<br /><br />That means feeding on demand, and basically having no real life outside breastfeeding.<br /><br />Those parents who's rigid/firm about bedtime? I am not one of those. I like having my kids around, except for when I don't want to have kids around.<br /><br />I am not a big help on this Jenn. I just hold and hold and feed and feed my baby. <br /><br />Other times, if he's still crying when I am holding him, I put him in his crib and sometimes they stop, coz even babies need space. The other times, he just loves to be held.<br /><br />He specially loves to be held when I have to do something. Otherwise he's fine with leaving me by myself. Your baby's so huggable!Girliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10380454816676310833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-47284817262421471152007-01-05T02:26:00.000-04:002007-01-05T02:26:00.000-04:00How could something so cute be such a rebelrouser ...How could something so cute be such a rebelrouser (I would show you a pict of my Baby J at this moment if I could! LMAO)<br /><br />How is it you have the EXACT post I was thinking of putting up from the "contimplative" what do I do when I get pregnant agian.<br /><br />My little one was like that the first few months, I hate to say this but it wasn't until I stopped nursing her that we were able to stop this completely! :( One thing I found did work was possitioning, there was ONE possition that ALWAYS worked, I have no idea why but I would cuddle her up into that possition and she would dooze back off with no nursing (seriously, it was almost like I was enveloping her... maybe I just smothered her out! LMAO). NOW, I ALSO had "the couch!" Even today, if she won't sleep... for whatever reason if I cuddle her up on the couch she will drop right off. The only thing I can think is that is is a bit softer so when I lay on my side she is snuggled in a bit more. What ever it is, it helps!<br /><br />I am so glad I am not alone. I swear I want to beat every person who says "you are ruining that child!" Honestly... I think that is bs and I have gotten irritated enough to find a buttload of studies to back up my claim! LOL<br /><br />NOW, that being said, since I just gave up my secrets... tell me yours... how do I get my kid to sleep in her bed. Crying it out is one thing but my kid will litterally cry for HOURS, no matter HOW tired she is and NOT sleep! Horriable, I am sorry but I do not think that is healthy, it is one thing is she gets upset for 10 minutes but HOURS (I mean HOURS here people, I have gotten tough a few times and was SHOCKED as the clock ticked past two hours)??? So... help ME... any ideas that may work or have worked for you in the past?! LMAOT-girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01880195323752995377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-28693476952874467252007-01-04T20:47:00.000-04:002007-01-04T20:47:00.000-04:00i think the picture of your daughter sucking her t...i think the picture of your daughter sucking her thumb is sooooooooo cute!!!!!!louannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522758277418450920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-32493221701480039872007-01-04T10:54:00.000-04:002007-01-04T10:54:00.000-04:00thank you, angeljet! That does make me feel bette...thank you, angeljet! That does make me feel better. I guess I lose perspective now and then. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you will again :)Jennboreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-88565607564098106952007-01-04T03:44:00.000-04:002007-01-04T03:44:00.000-04:00hi =) i came across your blog and read your most r...hi =) i came across your blog and read your most recent entry. I know you don't know me but i just felt that a couple of lines of encouragement would help a bit -- i hope.<br />It truly is draining and frustrating but I believe that the little one will eventually get over that. It may be a stage or maybe she is just adjusting to being back home. I co-slept with my older son until he was 2. And my younger one is now 7 motnhs and still sleeps with me.<br />Hope this helps.louannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522758277418450920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-41691656655485546842007-01-03T19:23:00.000-04:002007-01-03T19:23:00.000-04:00*sigh* See, that's how I am too, Tallulah. I nev...*sigh* See, that's how I am too, Tallulah. I never let Bella cry. I still don't! I can't stand it. That has led to STILL being asked if she sleeps with us...as if it is so bad! They are little for such a short time.<br /><br />My sister pointed out that I should do what works for Ava and our family. I imagine that's the best advice I could be given. But there are days where I feel like Ralph Kramden...TO THE MOON, AVA, TO THE MOON!... :)Jennboreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920449345093917410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-27814761411333293862007-01-03T18:03:00.000-04:002007-01-03T18:03:00.000-04:00Oh boy! I wish I had some easy answers for you. ...Oh boy! I wish I had some easy answers for you. I was a Mom that wouldn't (and still doesn't..I know, I know, I'm a wimp) let Izzy cry it out. Plus, I nursed every two hours round the clock till Izzy was 11 months old.<br />There are people that have perfectly well behaved children that go to sleep after you put them in bed, but those are usually the people that were rigid about bedtimes when their babies were young and allowed them to cry it out.<br />Some days I wish I would have been one of those cry-it-out Mom's, but then I would have missed out on all that cuddling!<br />Good luck...oh, and I love the pictures. She is such a cutey!tallulahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02844399832417509801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10065760.post-78709084683001856982007-01-03T17:39:00.000-04:002007-01-03T17:39:00.000-04:00She is absolutely gorgeous. Good luck.She is absolutely gorgeous. Good luck.Ailearahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11447988418771343341noreply@blogger.com